Talking to someone that has wronged you is a difficult thing to deal with. The reason why that is because you aren’t sure if you can trust that person again. So, what do you do? Should you just stay away and never speak to them again? Or should you just take the high road and see what will come from it?
When I went out to lunch with my Dad Sunday, talking to each other started out slow. It was like we were strangers trying to carry a conversation on an elevator. Finally, my Dad broke the awkwardness saying, “Ariel, before you told me how you felt, I thought I was doing right by you,” “I didn’t think about how you need time with me.” My Dad said, looking at me with sadness in his eyes. I sat up in my seat. I could not believe that he actually heard me. I just knew that he would find ways to make this a non-issue. I felt so comfortable with what I was hearing, all my bitterness and anger was falling off with each acknowledgment he made. At that moment I felt so proud to say that this man is my Father. Now, I want you to understand that I am still taking things slow with him. I want to make sure that he is genuinely willing to start over with our relationship. But just knowing that he owns his fault, makes me feel that we have a chance to rebuild.
I want everyone that reads this blog who has ever been hurt or has ever hurt someone to take from this story two things. First, come in with a clear and open heart. If you are still holding on to the hurt, you will never be able to receive anything from that person. It is okay to be hurt, but if you are trying to move forward, you must let go. Secondly, only have the conversation when YOU are ready. Don’t allow anyone to rush you into a conversation. You have to move when you feel that the time is right, and only you will know when the time is right.